You’ll Never Walk Alone

I’ve been thinking about this post for a little while. I’ve been pondering these precious thoughts over the Christmas break, and I’m now ready to share them with you.

I’m a very sociable and friendly person. I like to be with people and to share in good company. I love loving relationships, I value friendships and I love it when people get along. Sadly, life doesn’t always provide the cosy, happy relationships I’m sure we all wish to have.

I come from a very dysfunctional family. Despite moving away to university and always living in hope that things will be wonderful every time I visit home, those hopes rarely cross the boundary from being in the fantasy world into the realms of reality.

Even though I have over 1,000 friends on Facebook, and a massive family, full of brothers and sisters, and a huge extended family, and hundreds of other people that I get on well with, love and value, it doesn’t take away those times where I feel lonely, depressed and undervalued.

I’m certain that I’m not the only one who feels like this. I’m sure that there are a lot of people who will be reading this blog post who can identity with feeling lost in the crowd, mad at their families for all the unrest they cause, for the times where you feel lonely, upset, on your own, fighting your own battles.

It’s in those times (and I must stress that I don’t constantly feel like this) that one verse in the whole Bible comes to my mind and makes me shiver. It’s this:

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

That is taken from Proverbs 18:24.

You see, we as humans are defected. We cannot give the love, joy and happiness that we were intended to give each other. Even if you have 5,000 friends on Facebook, an amazing family who never argue, and you feel completely comfortable with everyone involved in your life, you can still be lonely. You can still come to ruin.

In my life, relationships with people who are meant to be the closest to me have often proved to be the most difficult thing to deal with in life. Going through my parents divorce and thereafter was and is a horrible thing. It causes strain, arguments, splits, divisions. And going to University seems to have paused my childhood at home, so that when I return to visit, I sometimes feel treated in that child like way, who’s opinion and feelings aren’t worth that much.

Yet in those times, there is a friend who sticks closer than even a brother. His name is Jesus. And he is the one who teaches me to forgive, whilst fully loving in a perfect way – a way that will never cause me to be lonely, upset or devalued.

I think God’s taught me through these experiences that there are others who don’t have that friend who sticks closer than a brother, and it is part of my calling to introduce him to them. If you are introduced with this person who can stick by you closer than a brother ever could and make friends with him, then you’re on the right path to being healed of family division, relationship problems and the hurt that people can bring to you through their attitudes, words and actions.

I’m not saying this is easy. None of us are perfect, and I wouldn’t deny that I have a part to play in my family’s problems, but it’s through Jesus that comes peace and comfort, even when those who are meant to love you don’t or cannot give the love that we all require. Unconditional, perfect love. And that love can only be found in the one called Jesus.

There’s a poem that I love, which links with these thoughts of mine, and it’s well worth remembering. It demonstrates the stickability of Jesus. I’ll leave it with you:

One night a man had a dream.
He dreamed he was walking along
the beach with the Lord.

Across the dark sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene, he noticed
two sets of footprints in the sand,
one belonging to him and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.
He noticed that many times along the path of his life
there was only one set of footprints.
He also noticed that it happened at the
very lowest and saddest times in his life.
This bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it.

“Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you’d walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life there is
only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why when I needed you most
you would leave me.”

The Lord replied “My precious, precious child,
I love you and would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints in the sand,
it was then that I carried you.”

Dean Roberts

Dean is a Minister in the Anglican Church. Currently he is Curate in the parishes of Bedwas, Machen, Michaelston-y-Fedw and Rudry in South Wales. He was born and bred in Wales, is married to Megan, and has two dogs called Taliesin and Melyn, and two cats named Sinsir and Hâf. He graduated from Cardiff University with a BA Hons. in Theology & Religious Studies, and has studied for an MA in Theology, Ministry & Mission at Trinity College Bristol. He also holds a Cert.RSCM from the Royal School of Church Music. He loves playing music, walking, reading, blogging and horse riding as well as going to the cinema and theatre. Read More @