A cure for homosexuality?


When Christian groups start advertising therapy for homosexuality, it gets my back up; not because of the advertising, but the way and context in which it is advertised.

I’m not sure about whether homosexuality can be cured. The reason I say this is because I’ve spoken to people who have become Christians who were practicing homosexuals, but went to ‘therapy’ and they are now married with children. They would say that they’ve been ‘cured’ of homosexuality.

On the other side of the coin, I’ve known of homosexual people who’ve been to therapy and say that it doesn’t work, is misleading, and ultimately wrong. This has come from the mouth of both Christians and those of no faith or of a different faith.

I know of Christians who are homosexual, but don’t practice their homosexuality as well.

It’s a tough issue – because everyone has their own opinion on this ‘therapy’, and when people who’ve been there and got the T-shirt, it’s hard to dispute with them when they say it works. For us folk who are heterosexual… we can only assume. If we’ve never been gay/bisexual, then how can we fully know the emotions and feelings of those who are?

And that’s the thing with these adverts. Everyone has a right to free speech (as the Gay Rights movement has stated themselves about this particular campaign.

The lifting up of individual issues that seem to be more serious in sinfulness than others is wrong. Yeah, OK, I get that some of you will not think that homosexuality is a sin, but conservatives do, so we’ll go with that for the sake of this post… what I’m trying to say is this:

Where were the protests and bus campaigns by Christians when the government put a load of disabled people out of work?

Where were the protests and bus campaigns by Christians about bankers who took major bonuses in a time of recession?

Where are the bus campaigns by Christians about domestic abuse?

That’s just to name a few issues which these sorts of Christians seem to be very quiet on.

Hear me clearly… I’m not equating homosexuality with any other sin. That’s not the purpose of this post.

It just seems to me that others are ranking sins (depending on what you view as a sin, of course), and prioritising them in bus advertising campaigns.

Aside from this issue; the whole area of pastoral care, concern, support and generally… Christian love has a huge question mark over it.

My main question about this whole ad campaign: Where is the Christian love?

These people may well respond with ‘Well, we are loving them: we’re offering them a get out!’

Even if this were true… why is it being put on buses, and moreover, why is it being advertised in an aggressive way? The text of these posters is shocking.

Yes, I may be conservative, but I really don’t like the way in which conservative Christianity in general is responding to some of these issues; abortion, homosexuality, transgender, etc.

I may be wrong, but I’m guessing that these groups of people are the ones that find it the hardest to walk into a church.

And what’s worst is that they probably have great difficulty in finding God at all – not because they’re full of sin that we “good” Christians don’t have, but because rather than us showing God to them and his unconditional, sacrificial love for them, we’re showing them the Devil in all his horror and ugliness.

I hope I’ve made myself clear :S I don’t mean to judge or offend. I just think that these issues need to be dealt with sensitively and lovingly – something which the Church hasn’t been good at for the last 2000 years. When will we learn?

I’d like your opinions on this please. I’m not infallible. I’m prone to human error, and I may have missed something that you may like to add, change, delete or whatever 😉

 

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Dean Roberts

Dean is a Minister in the Anglican Church. Currently he is Curate in the parishes of Bedwas, Machen, Michaelston-y-Fedw and Rudry in South Wales. He was born and bred in Wales, is married to Megan, and has two dogs called Taliesin and Melyn, and two cats named Sinsir and Hâf. He graduated from Cardiff University with a BA Hons. in Theology & Religious Studies, and has studied for an MA in Theology, Ministry & Mission at Trinity College Bristol. He also holds a Cert.RSCM from the Royal School of Church Music. He loves playing music, walking, reading, blogging and horse riding as well as going to the cinema and theatre. Read More @ http://deanroberts.net/about

  • 1. A Christian’s primary responsibility toward homosexuals is to love them and to minister Christ to them. Period dot.

    2. The Bible clearly defines homosexual acts as sinful. In fact, it defines all extramarital sexual activity as sinful. It defines marriage as the union between one man and one woman, as established by God and representative of the union between Christ and the church. We need to be clear on this point.

    3. It is impossible to be “born gay”. Homosexuality is not a genetic condition, though one person may be more susceptible to homosexual sin than others. As the son of an alcoholic (recovered, thank God), I am aware that I may be more prone to alcoholism than others. That does not make me “born alcoholic” and doesn’t make alcoholism “natural” to me. It means that I potentially have a weakness I need to mitigate (which I do by avoiding alcohol altogether).

    4. A homosexual’s core problem is the same as a heterosexual’s core problem: he is a sinner in need of grace. If he stops sinning sexually but doesn’t come to know Christ, he is still lost and spiritually dead. A Christian’s chief concern for the homosexual is that he be saved, not that he be straight.

    5. Christians are rightly concerned about the growing acceptance of homosexual behavior within the church. Christians need to “hate what is evil”, and the church’s track record of absorbing the prevailing culture’s values is not encouraging. Exhibit A: God hates divorce, but divorce has become as prevalent within the church as it is in the world. Where’s our outrage over this?

    6. American Christians are understandably jealous for our country’s culture and for our families’ place within it. As an American, I’m frightened by the aggressive homosexual proselytization, and I don’t want to see our families undermined by the widespread acceptance of same-sex marriages. On the other hand, I can’t allow my concern for my country’s culture to undermine my obedience to God’s command to love and reach the lost for Christ.

    7. This homosexual threat to our culture may seem existential now, but may eventually appear quaint and temporary over the long run. Recall my previous post about the Muslim population explosion in the UK, where in some places Sharia law has become accepted practice. Imagine a day, for example, in which Western Christians are persecuted alongside homosexuals by a dominant and repressive Muslim majority. Several things would likely follow: there would be far fewer homosexuals (because it would be much less pleasant to be identified as one); there would be fewer professing Christians (same reason); and those Christians who remain would become much more serious about why we’re here–to glorify God by ministering Christ in and to a lost and dying world at all costs.

    8. Ultimately Christians need to hate all sin, and to love all sinners. It’s cliche to say, but that doesn’t make it less true.

    From “Eight Propositions Concerning Homosexuality”, http://www.philippianjailer.com/2009/05/eight-propositions-regarding.html

    • Ryan

      Your response reminds me of a letter I once read that puts this whole debate into perspective. The letter was written in response to a woman whose rationale for claiming homosexuality is a sin was because “the Bible says so”. Here, have a look –

      “Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learned a great deal from you, and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it to be an abomination. End of debate.

      I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some of the other specific laws and how to follow them.

      1. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord – Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

      2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

      3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual cleanliness – Lev.15:19-24. The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offence.

      4. Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?

      5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

      6. A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an abomination – Lev. 11:10, it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don.t agree. Can you settle this?

      7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

      8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?

      9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

      10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev. 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? – Lev.24:10-16. Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev.20:14)

      I know you have studied these things extensively, so I am confident you can help. Thank you again for reminding us that God’s word is eternal and unchanging.”

       

      Perhaps this should make Christians think about how they think of homosexuality with regard to Biblical instruction. In any case, why on Earth should homosexuals feel they have to be ‘cured’? Christians don’t stop to think how sad and lonely their attitude must make homosexuals feel, it is not a choice. Live and let live. Homosexuality is no more a sin than having red hair.